The FASD Success Show

Episode 183 Michael Harris Blocked Care Why Caregivers Go Numb and How to Come Back

Jeff Noble

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When you’re parenting on high alert for years, your nervous system eventually tries to protect you. Sometimes that protection looks like numbness, irritability, shutdown, or going through the motions. In this episode, Jeff Noble sits down with Michael Harris, known online as FASD Elephant, to break down the science of blocked care and the small, realistic ways caregivers can find their way back to connection.

In this episode you’ll hear
 • What blocked care is and why it happens when stress stays too high for too long
 • How the stress response can shut down your social engagement system and make you feel emotionally flat
 • Why anxiety keeps pulling you into worst case futures and how to come back to the present moment
 • The difference between self regulation and auto regulation and why auto regulation is the real level up
 • A one minute grounding tool you can practice anywhere even when life is loud
 • How to use “the gap and the gain” to track real progress when it feels like nothing is changing
 • Why grief and ambiguous loss often hide underneath anger and resentment
 • How to avoid toxic positivity and build something steadier and more sustainable

Start here first
 Caregiver Kickstart Workshop (free): https://www.fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026

Watch the full episode on YouTube
 https://youtu.be/2jcTNnkMfR0

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Listen on Spotify
 https://open.spotify.com/show/6ntB51glqYnRPmXCh6lOGq

Resources mentioned
 FASD Elephant (Michael Harris): https://www.facebook.com/fasdelephant

Michael’s email: michael@fasdelephant.com

Michael’s writing hub: https://medium.com/@FASDElephant

Praise for Change: https://praiseforchange.com

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